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the love bomb.

August 5, 2008

to set the mood…

every young man and woman will eventually reach this landmark in their individual relationships, the love bomb. it will either bring the loved-strucked kids closer or brutally break them apart, but the decision lies within the palms of their hands. i was put on by my own girl to throw this post up because i never say the l-word, i simply don’t f*ck with that phrase. i’m not quite sure if this phrase may break my relationship, but it will most likely break my persona down, since i am something like a character. back in the day i didn’t care much about the word love, i threw it at girls like the department of health throwing condoms in DC and i kept that million-dollar smile on for that occassion, kinda like this one

[whats funny?] but truly i call it the love bomb, not really inspired by one of the greatests hits created by N.E.R.D., but because of the bomb-part. this word causes too many problems in too many relationships, it’s essentially an explosive. people think it’s cute to say it to there loved one, they think it makes the relationship stronger. nozr. it spreads the supposed lovers further apart, after having to say this word they start thinking about the future, and if they can really deal with this person for the rest of their lives, hell, if they can even deal with this person in their next phase of life. i sure as hell can’t deal with the word, you’ll have me thinking i was stuck in a relationship like my manz from knocked up!

i have nothing against people who use the word, if it’s truly how they feel, but why should a person get forced into something they aren’t ready for. ideologically if you love someone, then it’s a wrap on your relationship life…i’m 16 and i don’t want to wrap anything up yet, i’m too young! if i like you, i like you… no need for all that mushy-gushy old couple sh!t, no need for that love bomb, at all. there’s no room for that here, my dear. but let’s look into the definition of love: a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. that definition right there already has me acting foolish, it’s just way too deep for me. i can’t fade it!

let’s bring it back to that picture i have on top, this is kinda how i feel when i’m approached by the word. just unsure of everything, do i really feel this way back, could i ever feel this way back? just simple questions that bring upon indepth thought, feel me. but the worst part in this phase of love is rejection. how do you react to this rejection or how do you really reject…what happens after the rejection? after the rejection the relationship can go nowhere but down under, it’s a seal on the relationship…you will be done shortly, the bomb part. i feel that i have expressed enough why the l-word is seen as bomb, just decide whether you are ready to take on the baggage that comes with the word, recheck that definition and see if you feel that way.

[to go along with the official post comes the official mixtape…blast-off mixtape, vol.3: love bomb]
remember… love kills!

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13 comments

  1. nice smile buddy! i love it! please visit me back..


  2. whoa…im lovin this post cuz too many people use that word without really knowing what it means…nowadays if you dont say the l-word [usually the girl] starts thinkin “oh he doesnt like me anymore” and blah blah personally i dont use the word. in the relationship im in right now me and my bf agreed that when the time comes (which is gonna b very far) we’ll both be ready to accept it…but for now that word is loaded and comes with a lot of unforseen committments…so yea associating the word bomb with love is a very smart thing to do. in our generation i think we need to stop rushing into things..whether its into relationships or w.e and just chill.


  3. thats pretty intense. but i feel you; i dont really understand the “l-word”, or what is truly means, at the age and point of time im in right now. sometimes love isnt the definition you find in the dictionary, it can have different meanings for different people. for example, i love my ma, i love my bestfriends, i have love for the sport of lacrosse…. those are all different types of love, but at the same time, i don’t know what those types are…. and feeling love to a fiance, spouse, or whatever is a totally different level. but once again i ask, what is that love or if it even is “love”? i guess like you said, saying “i love you” is almost like saying “i do” at a wedding, a lot of feelings, expectations, etc come with it; so i guess it shouldn’t be thrown around if its not understood or mutual…


  4. so trueee. i think most ppl jus sai it because they think thats how they feel but rlly its just infatuation. love is not somethin to play around with. Love is a very strong feeling shared between two ppl and you shouldnt be said to just anyone. Guys needa be careful when using the L word because girls never forget it


  5. truth bruh, no need 4 maken unsure claims nd fuckin shit up


  6. Excellent post. I guess as the after-thought, which may or may not belong on the blog, you might want to ask yourself, how will YOU react when a girlfriend or someone really close to you approaches you with the L-bomb? When a girl you’re close with says “I love you” in an intimate moment, what are you gonna say back? Because believe me, the worst time to think about that is when it happens. Suddenly, your time to think about it goes from numerous hours to just a few seconds. Or even worse, “Baby do you l*** me?” OHHH SH!T WHAT DO I SAY NOW, ya feel me?

    I like that, by the way, L-bomb, sounds nice.


  7. yah this post is too intense, i’m glad i’m not the only one feeling this way about the word… i thought i was gonna ride solo on this topic for the next couple of years!


  8. ummmm…..hmmm the points you bring up about the subject are very honest and controversial, but i believe for someone to speak on such a subject at this young age, like u say hasnt lived enough or learned enough to even judge the matter itself. Not to say that what you think is wrong in any way because it is your own opinion, and the opinions of others as well, but i dont believe anyone, not just you, can judge any single matter if they themselves have not experienced it.


  9. lol! oh goodness didn’t know you had a heart buddyy but yea obviously a touchy and controversial subject. good wrk*


  10. wow that was hella deep well yea u right the l-word does come with alot of baggage but u kno some ppl use the word and they mean it so for those who use and dont use the word its up to them


  11. SHAY!!!
    i love this writtin!
    i mean i say the love word but only when i mean it
    but i like the way u
    put things and u r so right.
    i dont think ppl should feel pressured aboutt things 🙂
    but also if u been 2gether for a long time and the person cares for u
    u cant expect them to hide there love for u.
    even if u are to young u can styll fall in love. love doesnt always have baggages it just depends on the person ur with.

    🙂


  12. love is defenately a complicated thing.
    but if you love som1 nd they love you back
    its can b a beautiful thing.

    Thats the best feelin
    knowin that sombody out there loves you
    like that.


  13. o lordy. when i was first reading this i wanted to hate but i see ur point.but its hard to read u blogging on such a topic u hav yet been under the influence of. just because someone says it duznt mean its that serious. for example.
    seun i love u
    and i do
    but im not in love with u
    ^THATS the difference

    feel me?



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